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Oct 29, 2014

Huffington Post| 15 Biggest Marriage Regrets From Middle-Aged Divorcees

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MIDDLE AGED COUPLE ANGRY

Divorce triggers a lot of different emotions, everything from sadness to regret. In some cases, a split is precipitated by a factor outside the marriage. In other cases, though, couples ask themselves whether there was something they could have done differently to save the relationship.
With that in mind, we asked divorced Huff/Post50 readers about the biggest mistakes they made in their marriages. Some responses were succinct. "Getting married when my instincts kept screaming 'NO!'" said Nancy Jurney. But others were more complex. "Not really knowing who he was. I should have done a better job on his background. Got married in June of 1986 and divorce was final in December 1986," said Jessie Williams. Take a look at the other responses below and let us know what you think in comments.

1. "We stopped putting the other first; stopped nurturing the relationship, dating. Simple everyday things like kissing, holding hands, hugging in public or private waned; growing in separate directions and/or not growing at all."

Sep 19, 2014

LouHelen| BNASAA Conference: “Confronting and Facing our Challenging Issues”

I'm moving back to the US and I'm interested in learning more about human sexuality, addictions, abuse and other issues. I found out that at LouHelen Baha'i School in Davison, Michigan this Fall there will be a BNASAA Conference. 


The stated purpose of Bahá’í Network on Aids, Sexuality, Addictions and Abuse (BNASAA) is to explore Bahá’í principles and concepts related to AIDS, human sexuality, addictions, abuse and other challenging personal issues, and to consider questions and concerns that arise in the application of these principles to Bahá’í community development. The committee is appointed by and under the guidance of the National Spiritual Assembly of Canada. This year’s conference will focus on ways we can acknowledge and address difficult issues that we deal with in developing a spiritual response to the challenges we face.
I read a beautiful article by Jay Howard Russell, a gay Baha'i man who

Question| Would you like to take part in an online study of a certain Marriage Book? Which one?

I'm thinking - who out there would like to take part in an online study of marriage minded books?

Mechanism:  Post a quotation and initial questions. Answer in the "comments" section.

Dr. Phil| Helping the Gents and the Ladies

http://www.drphil.com/

Sep 14, 2014

Tom Price| 12 Signs of Love

This is invaluable.

Tom Price's Talk, "12 Signs of Love"
- enjoy Tom's funny, factual, spiritual truths based on the Holy Writings and his down to earth references... powerful, useful and inspiring.

Susan Gammage on "12 Signs of Love"
- enjoy Susan's thoughtful, sincere, and helpful discussion on this wonderful talk. And the comments left by other therapists, counselors, coaches, friends.  And her many other entries, and materials...

Nov 5, 2013

Seth Adam Smith| Marriage isn't for you...

it's for the person you marry, the family you create, and the children you raise, and the service you render to God. Please enjoy this sent by my father today:
http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/


"I walk slowly, but I never walk backward." -Abraham Lincoln

Sep 29, 2013

Words of Wisdom| Asl-I-Kull'l-Khayr

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In the Name of God, the Exalted, the Most High
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THE source of all good is trust in God, submission unto His command, and contentment with His holy will and pleasure.
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The essence of wisdom is the fear of God, the dread of His scourge and punishment, and the apprehension of His justice and decree.
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The essence of religion is to testify unto that which the Lord hath revealed, and follow that which He hath ordained in His mighty Book.
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The source of all glory is acceptance of whatsoever the Lord hath bestowed, and contentment with that which God hath ordained.

Sep 22, 2013

Intent.com| 3 Ways to Feel Loved When Your Relationship is Ending

The source of all good is trust in God, submission unto His command, and contentment with His holy will and pleasure.

Just read a nice article about "3 Ways to Feel Loved When Your Relationship is Ending" - about how to see the space not as lost love, but of an opening for more love starting with yourself....and find love all around you - animals, children, uplifting music, fun things you like to do - make a "I love me" list of 108 reasons you love yourself....and Instant love ready to share! please enjoy. 

Jul 18, 2013

The important thing about yelling

We can stop. We can stop it. 


How? My sister and I talked about this today. I've talked about it with friends in Beijing, and in the US. Older than me and younger. 4 year old Zayha showed me how she 'boxes back her lower nature' and let's her higher nature win. Her higher nature is, "happiness". 


My sister highly recommended this book about saying hello in your head - to help stop the inner critic, the inner neurotic roommate, from spoiling an otherwise lovely environment: our mind. 

Today with Dad we talked about anger management, and why do people express anger:  fear and threat I offered. Fear of what, we wondered together. Fear of losing something - control, love, attention, respect, etc. How do we overcome this fear? Feeling secure. Deep in our hearts, minds and memory, Deep in our inner voice. 

Apr 22, 2013

The Credit Woman| Tying the Financially Fit Knot

Render thou thanks unto God, for He hath graciously enabled thee to observe the injunction set forth in His Most Holy Book, inasmuch as thou hast arisen to fulfil the obligation of Huqúq, and God hath accepted thy goodly deed. Know thou, moreover, that those who faithfully serve the All-Merciful will be enriched by Him out of His heavenly treasury.  
(Baha'u'llah, The Compilation of Compilations vol. I, p. 513)

We all need money to do things in this world. Click here to listen to some useful help for singles and couples regarding financial and spending plans with Ms. Tara Colquitt, The Credit Woman.
Free Credit Score sites:
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  2. https://www.creditkarma.com
More helpful insight on Money and Marriage from Ms. Susan Gammage:

Liz D| Your Calling -- Keep Praying and Listening for God's Response

"Keep praying and listening for God's response."
Liz D
 Liz D. from Los Angeles shares what she went through to find her calling, the examples she had in her life and how prayer helped her find her path.




Three years ago a friend shared with me that he'd decided to