could save the relationship to learn how to communicate in a way that she/he will understand your love.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/
I took this 30 second test: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30sec.html
i think that of the 5 love languages and i like them all (we all do i think) the one that's most important to me right now and has been is Quality Time. I really like the morning and evening check ins and time to talk and some prayers and that kind of goodness. I wonder why that is? Cuz I didn't get enough as a kid, or that it was the expected way to show one cares as a kid? Hmm.
And as for the 2nd part of the quiz - the for "apology" part - I really like "Make Restitution" the best - to make good what was put wrong. If someone does something wrong can they think it over a bit and say here is something right to help make that accident/bad move right. Maybe I should do that much much more.
Now, to find out his language that reaches him best.
Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.
Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.
An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.
Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/
I took this 30 second test: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30sec.html
i think that of the 5 love languages and i like them all (we all do i think) the one that's most important to me right now and has been is Quality Time. I really like the morning and evening check ins and time to talk and some prayers and that kind of goodness. I wonder why that is? Cuz I didn't get enough as a kid, or that it was the expected way to show one cares as a kid? Hmm.
And as for the 2nd part of the quiz - the for "apology" part - I really like "Make Restitution" the best - to make good what was put wrong. If someone does something wrong can they think it over a bit and say here is something right to help make that accident/bad move right. Maybe I should do that much much more.
Now, to find out his language that reaches him best.
Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.
Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.
An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.
Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.
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